CAMPUS TOXIC LOVE SCHEME.

Love is fascinating and complex. Romantic love, in particular, seems to be a beautiful mystery we find hard to explain.Nothing makes one's heart flutter quite like a good love story. And by good, we mean tragic, of course. There is a love story for everyone, and each is unique through place, personality, and style.

 Alumni couples share stories of romance that blossomed in hub for learning. Unfortunately, not all of this stories blossom to a bed of roses. In recent days toxic relationships among young adults in higher institutions of learning is in a remarkable rise. According to Catherine Jackson, a licensed clinical psychologist and neurotherapist based in Chicago, types of toxic relationships include: a controlling or manipulative, negative, self-centered or narcissistic, dishonest, insecure, abusive, blaming or demanding, secretive and dramatic. 

Sadly, most campus adults have not had enough education on this topic and how to end such toxic relationship. Most importantly one needs to recognize they're in a toxic relationship. Thereafter, seek help often from an appropriate professional, such as a clinical psychologist, a therapist, coach, or have the perspective of an insightful friend. Speak up for yourself confidently and remain firm that you do not condone the disrespect directed toward you. Finally, as a form of self care create boundaries, and stick to them, including also cutting off your toxic exes from your social media and imposing privacy options like unfollowing, muting or blocking. If they notice you are cutting them of they might find the need to punish you thus you need to prepare a countersrike for instance getting a restriction letter from relevant authorities.

Sticking to the above actions, we might avoid suicides from the young population who think they can't get out of toxic relationships or the unprecedented violent attacks witnessed among campus couples. It should be made crystal clear that moving beyond the pain of a failed relationship requires a shift of focus back on one’s self and to their own unique ability to give and receive love. 

According to Kane, when we understand how we fall in love, we can connect to the difficulties in moving forward after our heart has been broken. We can then connect again to the beauty of the experience and an optimistic understanding that if it has happened to us once that it can happen again to us.